When I first got sober, 6,696 days ago, I was afraid to tell my story out loud. It put words to my bad behavior. I didn’t want to let people know that I had failed. The truth had so much shame attached to it. My story felt ickey.
When, in fact, the truth was just the truth. I had added all of the shame and judgement to it. When I told my story to others in meetings, they got it. Because they had been in the same place at one time.
Each time I told my story and truth, there was a “power” in it that had been released. The weight of it seemed lightened. Easier each time I said it. I was the one who had added to power to the story. It was just the truth and in saying it out loud, I could accept the truth, then let it go. I didn’t have to be attached to the story and its meaning for me anymore. That was part of surrender for me.
The outcome of my story can be different now as I go forward. The story isn’t me. It was how I chose to behave in reaction to my circumstances while drinking. I can choose differently now, with God’s help and direction. The outcome is in God’s hand when I surrender to Him for help.
We are not bad people—just people doing bad behavior—Behavior I can change.
My new words have power to redefine who I am. I can be who God intended, just by releasing the power that old “shame narrative” held over me. This is the concept of meetings in AA. People of like minds and experiences getting together to support each other and share our journeys with each other—that others might find hope in each others’ words—“if she did it, maybe I can too.”
Words matter.
People told me that when I share my story, that I might help somebody else. Wow, I never looked at it that way before. I can be of service to others and God can use me and my story to help somebody else??? My story can be flipped and used for good.
Purpose.
This brings such hope—
For me, and for you.
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”
Genesis 50:20
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