When service becomes exhausting for me, it’s called codependency!
I realized after getting sober, I was also a codependent. I heard someone say the definition of codependency that resonated with me: “Helping another person at the expense of myself.” That is the exhausting part. Giving up something I need to do for myself and my own sobriety to help someone else. That is not helping either person.
When I first got sober I learned that the quickest way out of my own spiraled thinking, was to help someone else—to be of service. This worked for me, and I also have to have balance with that. There is a middle ground where I can be in service and still stay healthy.
How do I reframe this?
Self-care.
Self-care is not Selfish.
What is Self-care?
Self-care is being intentional with your time and with boundaries for your own sobriety, meditating, praying, spending time with loved ones or outside with exercise, going to meetings to hear God speak.
We can’t give what we don’t have.
We need to fill our spiritual tank.
Rest in this day.
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
John 14:27
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