No, Thank you.
“No.”— complete sentence. NO—period.
I have always put way too much on my schedule, over-committing and then, not being able to get it all done. Frazzled and not doing any one thing very well. I didn’t want to be left out or miss anything—so I over-committed, giving just some of myself to too many things.
I think God is calling me to slow down and do SOME of the things with ALL of me and not doing ALL of the things with SOME of me.
My sponsor told me early in sobriety that I have a problem saying “no” to people. I don’t want to disappoint. So I say “yes” and play the martyr role and “resent” you instead—for guilting me into saying yes, when, it was me who had made the bad choice. People pleasing. I don’t get to please you, then resent you. I don’t have to come up with a “good” excuse for my NO either. Just No. By saying yes, when I mean to say no, I buy many more problems and situations to unravel later. When “No.” releases me right now.
I have also heard this helpful saying:
“Say what you mean. Mean what you say. And, don’t say it mean.”
I am taking care of myself in this way.
Self care is not selfish.
No, thank you.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7
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